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Family Meetings: Parents Help Your Kids Discuss with This Special Formula
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: Parenting |
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: 24 March 2008 07:00 |
by: Jean Tracy. MSS
Do sarcasm, put-downs, and pouting keep you from holding Family Meetings? Do you want your kids to speak up, to listen, and to be respectful? Do you want them to become people of character?
In his book, Character Is Destiny, Senator John McCain said, It is your character alone, that will make your life happy or unhappyand you choose it. Parents, if you want your children to be happy, help them to choose character. The Family Meeting is an excellent tool to help them make that choice.
Perhaps, like other parents, you fear the battles that could occur during family meetings. Maybe you dont know how to teach your kids the skills they need. If so, this special Communication Formula is for you. Its as easy as one, two, three.
Communication Formula:
1. When you(Be specific about a behavior.)
2. I feel(Name a feeling like mad, upset, and angry.)
3. I want you to(Give a specific positive behavior.)
Use this communication formula with your kids and have them practice it with each other. Here are three examples.
1st Example(by an older sister)
1. Victor, when youre sarcastic with me,
2. I feel mad.
3. I want you to talk to me in a nicer voice.
2nd Example (by a parent)
1. Gretta, when you pout if I dont buy you a toy,
2. I feel upset with you.
3. I want you to take a No nicely and say, OK Mom.
3rd Example (by a younger brother
1. Bubba, when you hit me and call me names,
2. I feel angry.
3. I want you to talk nicely and play fair with me.
At a time outside the Family Meeting, talk to your kids about this special formula. Post it on the refrigerator. When one is being sarcastic use the formula. When the other is pouting use the formula. When another is using put-downs use the formula. Teach them to use the formula too.
Practice! Practice! Practice!
When you hold Family Meetings the formula will be ready to use. You wont have to worry about your kids fighting with each other because theyll have this Communication Formula to use. Theyll be expressing themselves effectively and building character too.
About The Author
Jean Tracy, MSS, Edmonds, WA, USA
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