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 by: Carna Zacharias-Miller

We all want to be happy. However, if a woman pushes herself to emotional and mental exhaustion in order to reach perfect happiness, she could suffer from a condition she probably has never heard of: Missing Mother Syndrome.

When Megan Meadows (not her real name) came to me, she just wanted to lose weight. Look at me! she shouted, pinching her thighs. I am fat! I am ugly! I hate my body! Well, there was some middle-age spread, but she certainly was a very nice looking woman. Where did all this self-hate come from?

I am a Meridian Therapy practitioner who uses EFT, a form of emotional acupressure, to release negative emotions. Tapping with the fingertips on certain energy points on the body while being tuned in to the problem, does stop food cravings. EFT is quite successful when it comes to weight loss. However, I realized that Megans real challenges went far deeper than what she perceived right now as her big problem. She mentioned that her mom had recently died, and that brought up the sad story of her childhood. I didnt have a mother, Megan said. She was always gone, and when she was there, she tried to create the little girl of her dreams - she did not want me. I was a very lonely child.

The way I saw it, Megan has been suffering all her life from Missing Mother Syndrome.

When Hope Edelman published her book "Motherless Daughters The Legacy of Loss in 1994, everyone who belonged to the secret sisterhood of women traumatized by early mother loss, had a revelation: Thats exactly how I feel - and I am not alone!

Growing up without the secure presence of a loving, supportive mother implies much more than lacking a same-sex role model. It is devastating. Since the mother is the first, the basic caretaker, losing her -in a physical or emotional way- starts a nightmare of deprivation for a child. In a way, it never ends. Many negative conditions and feelings experienced later in life may have their roots in this extremely traumatic experience.

You could suffer from Missing Mother Syndrome if you experience the following conditions on a regular basis:

• You feel lost, out of place, and unsafe in this world

• There is an underlying sadness in your life, even if nothing is wrong

• You tend to feel lonely and depressed, especially at other peoples "Happy Family" gatherings

• You hate your body or are unsure about "being a woman"

• You have abandonment or anger issues that hurt your relationships

• You experience social stress - You either try to stay invisible, or you have a compulsion to be in the limelight

• Any major crisis in your life, like a divorce, job loss, or bereavement, throws you right back into the painful past

• There is a lot of fear, anxiety, or even guilt and shame in your life

• You feel homesick without knowing where "home" is

• You are trying too hard to be happy and "perfect"

• You take rejection very personally

• You believe that everybody else gets their act together - except for you

With tapping, deep seated negative emotions and painful memories are brought to the surface and released fast and with little additional distress. Gary Craig, the founder of EFT: EFT has a high success rate with trauma and abuse issues, especially when applied to specific events.

Happiness is not a single, solid thing one can chase down doggedly, obtain and possess. It is rather a fluid quality that evolves naturally, when the obstructions that keep it from being are dissolved. Childhood trauma is certainly one of the main obstructions. Sometimes, a condition that is obvious, is not the real problem. To recognize that Missing Mother Syndrome is the underlying cause of never feeling right, can be the first step on a womans Healing Journey.

About The Author

Carna Zacharias-Miller, EFT-CC, EFT-ADV, is a spiritual writer and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) practitioner in Florida. She offers live and telephone sessions. Her specialty is helping Motherless Daughters to release the painful past and heal their hearts. E-Mail: info@missingmother.com. Website: www.missingmother.com.